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i just orderd my first hookah online and wasn't planning on telling my parents about it for a long time, unfortunately my dad looked up my account thing online one day and noticed a $100 bill from hezelia hookah and called to ask about that. Now my parents know about the hookah and think that it is some wierd thing to smoke pot and such out of. No matter how much i tell them that it is flavoured tabacco they just go yeah "flavoured tabacco"

Any one have some ideas on how to convince my parents what a hookah really is?

oh and thank you smiley for putting it as SMiley's ultimate coffee i really appreciate that
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Tough one. Very tough.

Ignorance is damned hard to get over. I would suggest maybe pointing them in the direction
of local shops that actually sell the stuff in public. This may help them understand.

Or just sit down and talk with them, but i'm guessing you have tried this.

How old are you - how old are your parents ?

JD
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yeah the local shop thing is a bad idea, there was one that was called the red eye hut that sold pipes, bongs, hookahs and i believe was a small lounge too
it was recently shut down for selling of weed and such i believe

im 20 parents are 57 and 45


i know that i am of legal age but i don't want my parents to think that i am a drug addict or anything like that
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Therein lies your problem.

57/45. 60's/70's kiddies.

You have a tough sell my man.

If the local shop is out then maybe show them the tobacco packaging ect ect? Maybe point them to a few of the mainstream tobacco manufatuers?

When you light it up and smoke they should soon be able to tell that it's kosher!

JD
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Samil had the right idea..show them THIS place. Is our NO drug policy and everything else we discuss ddoesn't do it nothing will. Or is you are clean, get a home test kit to PROVE you don't smoke grass, then there'd be no reason for a fancy device for that. I dont know how much they are but you can get them in the drug store. That way you can say "see, I'm clean. I'm really going to use this for tobacco." which will open its own can of worms but hey, atleast they wont think your doing drugs.
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why dont u go over the history of the hookah with them and let them know your actually into the hookah and give them all the details and everything like that, maybe they will see where your coming from and not think it's just a weed pipe
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I'm 20, my parents had the same response when I first mentioned hookah to them last May. I got it in the mail (they weren't too happy, but oh well) and showed them the tobacco. My dad was an MP and he used to smoke weed, so he could tell just by looking at it that it wasn't weed.

Actually... they started to be ok with it when I sat them down at Reactor (anime convention in October) with the Hookah Guys who were my introduction to hookah. They smoked, they had fun, they were ok with it. Moreover, I keep telling them that I wouldn't taint my hookahs with the disgusting substance. They're pretty sick of hearing it... laugh.gif
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Look the first thing your welcome. Second your 20 there is time in our lives that we need to come clean with our parents and join the rest of us that are starting a friendship along with the parent trap. I thnk you need to explain the issues at hand with them. Print some info about our lifestyle. Have then read about it here. But I know the school thing is a part. Does your parent pay for your school? if yes well you have a obligation to excel in school. If you prove to them you can get the grades they want to see or show them your not fucking around in school. this might help. But be Honest and share your info. If they blow you off .Like oh yea your smokeing tobacco. Stand your ground and tell them yes I am smokeing flavored tobacco. If you are educated on this manner and approch it the right way.You should be able to get it into your parents head. Explain that the Sixties are over. We use a hookah for what it was intended for. Good luck and rember to be honest and educated when dealing with this matter. From one who has went thru this already.
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Damn hippies ruined it for us all sad.gif

The other 2 hookah smokers in this area that I know of use their hookahs for weed. It's not fair, they're killing the clean and pure image I'm trying to convey of the hookah.
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It never gets better dude. I'm flippin' 33 (no, I don't live with my parents), and I swear my mom thinks I smoke hash out of the thing. She asks me, "So, does it just make you really relaxed? Make you feel funny?". I think it is because the only contact she has had with hookah are those pictures you see of old Middle Eastern dudes looking like they just finished off a kilo. I guess the difference is that, in the end though, she really doesn't care at all and respects my decision as an adult.
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My dad still calls my hookah a bong. Whenver I say I am going to go hookah he says something like, don't forget the bong or if we go somewhere he'll say, why don't you bring the bong with. I have smoked it with and around my parents and they know that it is tobacco being smoked out of there. The first time he saw it though he smelled the bowl though, maybe to see if it smelled like "drugs". I don't know if they think I smoke that stuff out of it, but I know that they know I am responsible and not an idiot.
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why does your dad have access to your bank records at 20 in the first place if you don't mind me asking.

And a quick warning, this thread is getting a little close to the "no drugs" rule...just a little close.... wink.gif
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QUOTE (enfer singe @ Feb 14 2007, 10:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My dad still calls my hookah a bong. Whenver I say I am going to go hookah he says something like, don't forget the bong or if we go somewhere he'll say, why don't you bring the bong with. I have smoked it with and around my parents and they know that it is tobacco being smoked out of there. The first time he saw it though he smelled the bowl though, maybe to see if it smelled like "drugs". I don't know if they think I smoke that stuff out of it, but I know that they know I am responsible and not an idiot.


Haha....you're dad is quite the character.

As for me....I've yet to divulge the information that I do own one. I have mentioned going to hookah lounges a few times to them, and I had to explain what a hookah was then. When i explained the mechanics of it, my dad immediately said "oh, a water pipe?"....tongue.gif

I'm not sure what they'd say if i took it out at home or anything (im at school most of the time, away from home)....but I really hope over the summer it can be cool with them, and I can smoke in the backyard with my friends, as nothing is better than smoking outside in the summertime, and my backyard is a pretty nice place to chill out =D
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Parents are also the same age. But they understand what it is, I mean hell I am opening a lounge. But my mom still worries the neighbors will think its a bong when I am sitting on my deck. Eh, I did get my mom to smoke some Raspberry though. She said she felt like she was smoking from a bong. I told her it must bring back memories and she just laughed.
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first time i went to israel in the summer of 2005 i think i picked one up along with a bunch of my friends, lets just say i was under 18 at the time, i talked to my parents about it and they were cool as long as i did it outside...my dad still calls it a hukah because he refuses to pronounce it right.
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See i think y'all have great advice. I'm 18 and i had to buy my baby in secret. My dad in russian the hookah is called "kalian" and my dad was a smoker he knows what it is and he just doesn't want me to end up an addict or w/ cancer. Now i respect him and love him but somethings in life are just to damn appealing to me.

So even tho he knows what it is used for he wouldn't accept my decision how do you break that to him?
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QUOTE (glz88 @ Feb 14 2007, 10:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
See i think y'all have great advice. I'm 18 and i had to buy my baby in secret. My dad in russian the hookah is called "kalian" and my dad was a smoker he knows what it is and he just doesn't want me to end up an addict or w/ cancer. Now i respect him and love him but somethings in life are just to damn appealing to me.

So even tho he knows what it is used for he wouldn't accept my decision how do you break that to him?

I don't know your parents so I can't give definitive advice but I would just explain how it is a social experience that you reserve for special occasions.  I think once a lot of parents realize that you don't smoke 10 bowls a day it is easier for them to accept.  Just let them know you are responsible.  
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QUOTE (not.plugged.in @ Feb 14 2007, 11:00 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
yeah the local shop thing is a bad idea, there was one that was called the red eye hut that sold pipes, bongs, hookahs and i believe was a small lounge too
it was recently shut down for selling of weed and such i believe

im 20 parents are 57 and 45


i know that i am of legal age but i don't want my parents to think that i am a drug addict or anything like that

my parents werent too savvy about what a hookah was and was used for when i was using their garage to build one lol
my dad was saying "hes building a bong!" so i explained what it was and they gave me the "riiiiiiight" face.
a while later i sat down for a minute and told them a very brief history of hookah and about the tobacco. after they they just give me shit for smoking.. which is fine by me.

(my parents are 60's kids, but very cool. they strongly disapprove of my smoking hookah or drinking alcohol since im still 20. and about all they do is give me a "i cant believe youre smoking that shit" every now and then lol)
i <3 my parents.

one thing you might do is bring your hookah to them and show them how it works in detail. if they arent super-against tobacco use, ask them to smoke with you once so they can understand your hobby. i told my parents id do that but they wouldnt want to so i never did hah.
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