Jump to content
Bryantos

Did I Cross A Line?

Recommended Posts

I'm 18, and I have a friend I've known since I was 3 or 4, so I've known him about 14 to 15 years. Our social circle consists of people we've known for the same amount of time. We all grew up together.

While we were still in highschool, he started dating this girl. Everything was cool at first, they had their normal troubles just like any relationship, but over time, there were more problems than not. They eventually broke up about a year and a half after dating. Both of them were pretty upset about it, more her than him, but the break up was over change. She started hanging out with the wrong crowd, and was going in a bad direction for awhile. He didn't want to be part of that, so he broke it off.

However, they still talk as if they were in a relationship, and they still have sex. Well, my friend called her one day and said "Im through. Dont love you anymore, don't want to see you, etc, etc.", but he still calls her every now and then, and he blows up on her when shes around us, his friends. I mean he just goes fucking nuts. I've never, in my long time of knowing him, think he'd get so pissed over stuff so small.

Well, she recently befriended my girlfriend, and they're starting to hang out with eachother quite often. One day I called him and asked if he was going to do anything for his ex-girlfriend for valentines day, just out of curiousity, and he kept asking me "Why?". I told him I was just curious (Because I was), and he said no. Apparently after he got off the phone with me, he called her and started yelling at her calling her a lying bitch. He kept telling her to stop asking people to try to get information out of him for her, and told her to stop lying. Which everything he said was obviously way off, because I had not talked to her about it.

The reason I was asking was because my girlfriend and I were going to do something for her for valentines day because she is completly crushed by him. We just wanted to cheer her up just a smidgen. wink.gif Do you think I'd be out of line by having my name on the gift? I didn't think it was that big of a deal until I told one of our other close friends about it. Edited by Bryantos

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
They are both loopy.
I would stay a million miles away from either of them. To do otherwise will only get you problems.

If you want to "cheer her up" get her the hell away from someone like him! thrusting her back into an abusive situation is morally, and ethically wrong. You can't possibly believe for an instant that the guy that blows up at his "friends" isn't taking it out on her later. He is 100% douche-canoe.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Tough call.

He's going to be pissed at you though. However sounds like he needs a 2be4 upside the head. Sometimes to be a friend we have to give our friends a shakabuku tongue.gif

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
He obviously still likes her...but doesnt want to admit it.

Anyways, it depends on what the gift is, if its something small, like a movie or something, then go for it.
But if its something big and very meaningful, then no. If you did, it would probably get really awkward between you and your friend.
It definitely depends on what the gift is.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Your friend sounds insane. You've done nothing inappropriate.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
get her a cake with a male stripper that jumps outta that. We did that to my great-aunt years ago for her 80th birthday..
that outta do it

edit: this would only be outta line if you started courting her, I know this from experience of my douche friends having done this to me in the past. Edited by r1v3th3ad

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
QUOTE (r1v3th3ad @ Feb 13 2008, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
get her a cake with a male stripper that jumps outta that. We did that to my great-aunt years ago for her 80th birthday..
that outta do it

edit: this would only be outta line if you started courting her, I know this from experience of my douche friends having done this to me in the past.

Your friends tried courting you by giving you a cake with a male stripper inside? Edited by gaia.plateau

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
QUOTE (gaia.plateau @ Feb 13 2008, 06:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (r1v3th3ad @ Feb 13 2008, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
get her a cake with a male stripper that jumps outta that. We did that to my great-aunt years ago for her 80th birthday..
that outta do it

edit: this would only be outta line if you started courting her, I know this from experience of my douche friends having done this to me in the past.

Your friends tried courting you by giving you a cake with a male stripper inside?


I fear it's going to get gay in here wink.gif

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
QUOTE (Johnny_D @ Feb 13 2008, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (gaia.plateau @ Feb 13 2008, 06:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (r1v3th3ad @ Feb 13 2008, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
get her a cake with a male stripper that jumps outta that. We did that to my great-aunt years ago for her 80th birthday..
that outta do it

edit: this would only be outta line if you started courting her, I know this from experience of my douche friends having done this to me in the past.

Your friends tried courting you by giving you a cake with a male stripper inside?


I fear it's going to get gay in here wink.gif

Putting on my galoshes as we type.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
QUOTE (gaia.plateau @ Feb 13 2008, 06:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Johnny_D @ Feb 13 2008, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>


I fear it's going to get gay in here wink.gif

Putting on my galoshes as we type.




and you wonder why I love Gaia tongue.gif

/Back to the discussion at hand!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
ha no man i dont think thats anything to worry about. sounds like your boy has some complex relationship issues.
i met my girlfriend through my old roomate and they dated back in highschool and lost v cards to each other.
then 5 years later he introduced me to her when she began going to my college. i asked if it was cool if i hung out/dated her and he said fine.
due to other circumstances me and the old room mate stopped talking because of roommate stuff (he was straight edge i was not so yea...)
me and the woman thought it was over my dating her but at that point i had asked him if he was cool with it 4 or 5 times and each time he said he didn't care because he had broken up with her like 4 years prior.
so basically i didnt have much contact with that roommate for all of last year. then this year he calls me up and we started hanging out again. with girlfriend involved.
it was awkward at first but its chill now. he basically was like yea i was stressed out with school and work and things with the apartment but since im not edge anymore it doesnt matter much anymore.
plus i still got the girl and one of my best friends back so win win?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
1 word: threesome.

lurid naughty sex always helps to clear your mind.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
+1 to that camel
OR
you could just your girl and the other girl and snap some nudezzzzz. then post them on the forum for us to view and rate. purely professional that is.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
personally i wouldn't put my name anywhere near that gift, that guys crazy and honestly sounds like you guys wouldn't be friends over something like that, maybe find her date but yeah watch out.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
QUOTE (thecoalition @ Feb 13 2008, 02:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
+1 to that camel
OR
you could just your girl and the other girl and snap some nudezzzzz. then post them on the forum for us to view and rate. purely professional that is.


Im really liking the direction this thread is going biggrin.gif Keep it up!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
reread what I said guys...my friends didn't do that to me, my aunts, uncles, mom, and grandparents chipped in for the stripper. IT WAS FOR MY GREAT AUNT, NOT ME.
But with all this talk of gay, I just tossed on my vynal bondage pants with spikes.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
if you give her a gift with no name on it shes going to assume its her ex, which means he still likes her... so dont do that (surprised no one has thought of that so far) put you and your girls name on it and send it to her. that should cheer her up, if your friend gives you lip about it id just tell him strait up what you think.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
if you're friend will get pissy because you choose to be nice to someone, you need a new friend.

And it sounds like he's kinda sadistic... keeping this poor girl around just to yell at her... I saw something like that on the movie Eatern promises. Only, the chick was a prostitute, and the guy was in the Russian Mob... dry.gif

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
That's just a bad situation, and not your fault. I've seen people who are completely fine to hang out with turn into right bastards in a relationship. They usually seem to act like bastards to everyone after a while.

I agree with canon on the gift. Don't take any shit from him, you've known him long enough to be able to say something to his face.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
i dont really see a problem in it because its something nice for her. if he gets mad ove a selfless act then it will just make him look worse to eveyone one involved

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
QUOTE (Tati @ Feb 13 2008, 12:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
He obviously still likes her...but doesnt want to admit it.

Anyways, it depends on what the gift is, if its something small, like a movie or something, then go for it.
But if its something big and very meaningful, then no. If you did, it would probably get really awkward between you and your friend.
It definitely depends on what the gift is.



i agree with tati on this one

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

×
×
  • Create New...